I’ve asked a few friends and fellow-bloggers to guest post while I am getting acquainted with Hudson–though I know I’ll enjoy sharing updates and photos from time to time. Teryn, one of my dearest friends, is mother to two adorable twin boys (if you read Hither & Thither, you might recognize them from our trip to Cape Cod!). I was beyond delighted when she agreed to share some thoughts on her experiences parenting…
When Ashley asked me to write about my experience parenting twins, I was very excited. I actually have never really paused to reflect on any of it! But, when I did sit down and try to detail all the “profound” lessons this experience has taught me, the result was so contrived, and heard-it-a-hundred-times-before, and just downright boring that I couldn’t put you (or myself) through it. So, I decided, instead, to compile a list of some of the funny and surprising things that I’ve discovered about myself, my husband and my kids in these past two years:
1) I hated having a baby nurse. Believe me, I know the fact that I am complaining about this, when most people do not have the luxury of 24/7 help, is enough to make you want to smack me around; but it was the most miserable two weeks of my parenting life. Never again.
2) Little boys love their penises from day one. Seriously. They really do.
3) The nanny is my wife. My nanny nit-picks me the same way I nit-pick my husband. So annoying! I decided to change my ways with my husband – that lasted for about two days.
4) Airplane travel, which I always dreaded, is now no longer scary due to my fear of flying but instead due to my fear of my children’s potential meltdowns. Fiery crash? It’s nothing compared to the threat of a flight-long crying jag.
5) Humans are born to love slapstick comedy. Nothing makes either of my boys laugh harder than when his brother falls down. I’m seriously considering buying Three Stooges DVDs. It would entertain them for hours.
6) We thought our lives wouldn’t change as completely as they have. My husband and I truly believed that, after a year or so, we’d get back to the ski trips, the nights out, the general ease with which we led our lives. For us, and maybe having twins makes the difference, this has not been the case. There is just so much planning involved in the simplest of outings. (This is getting better now that the kids are older.)
7) I have moments of intense nostalgia for my pre-children past.
8) I turn a bit green with envy when I see moms with just one baby. I know, I know, having a baby – period – is difficult, but it looks so much easier!
9) Conversely, my husband and I both think it would be so strange to have just one child. What do you do with just one? Do you have to play with him all the time?
10) We have never been so activity-driven in all our lives. And I promise you it is not so that we can broaden our kids’ minds. Without a full day planned, the minutes really can pass like hours.
11) Finally, it can’t have been all that bad, since we decided to take the plunge again. We are expecting another baby (just one this time – phew!) in November.
What would you say are some of the funny or surprising things you discovered when you became a parent for the first time? Or, if you aren’t a parent yet, what are the things that scare or excite you about it?